Age gaps in dating relationships

And what they're really about is the need to control, or the need to be looked after by, a partner.

If you are determined the relationship is to be long-term, you needto ask each other some serious questions about how things will change when you are older.'The reality of having to look after a much older partner, however much you may love them, is enough to put a lot of people off.' Given that fact, Julia believes, it's younger women who come off best in age-gap relationships.

'They have all the cards in their hand: they are looked after very well while they are developing their personality and talents; they have all the benefits of their mentor's experience and material advantages; and they leave the relationship with their youth intact, having taken the best from it.'One look at Les Dennis and Amanda Holden's break-up certainly seems to indicate that she's done exactly that.

The website's psychologist Sam Owen believes that men aged 20-29 now looking for older women pver a younger model is largely down to the change in gender roles in modern society, with far more equality between the sexes nowadays. The couple are now married and have a one year old daughter called Carmen and recently announced that they are expecting their second child together Sam Taylor-Johnson, 47, with husband Aaron Taylor-Johnson, 24.

The pair, who have 23 years between them, met on the set of Nowhere Boy in 2008.

Perhaps most interesting at the end of the Amanda-Les partnership was how differently they reacted.